Looking for Love?

How many people go through life feeling that they are lonely or unloved. Even married people go through stages where they feel that they are in this sort of relationship, some have never been in a long term relationship. These people try to tell you that they are happy being alone, but you get to a point in your life where you want someone to share your life with.

Don't go over there with the wrong idea about the girls, even if they are working as bar girls, they can be nice girls and probably are. In Asia there is no unemployment benefits! , no social security what-so-ever. Families are large and sometimes the only way for a family to survive is for their prettiest daughter or grand-daughter to work in a bar.

You can look all over the world, all of your life, for that someone special, and usually when it is too late, you discover that the one you were looking for was right beside you all of the time. My brother, for example, was married at an early age, he now has been married and divorced 4 times, and lived with another 3 women, all of whom were very similar in looks to his first wife, but not at understanding as her.

To make a blossoming relationship work and to keep it blossoming you have to continue to make the effort and even increase your efforts. Let me use this analogy. If you buy a business, you will work at it day and night to make it a success. Once you reduce your efforts the business will fail very quickly. The same goes for a relationship, no relationship will last without the effort.

They enjoyed each others company, and it's not hard for a man to fall in love with a woman who will help you fulfill your every fantasy. He gave her and her family the security that they never had. She migrated back to his home country and made a home for him like no other he had ever had.

You have to make allowances, you have to compromise. Compromise is absolutely necessary in everything that you do. From the time that you are in the cradle to the time that you are put under the ground. Like the Rolling Stones sang, "you can't always get what you want". Do the best you can with what you are given.

Love is something that comes from within, you have to give it before you get it. Many times I have heard of people go out and looking for the love that they feel is missing from their lives; they never find it. Sometimes you have to stop looking for love and get on with your life, if you are an open and accepting person the love with find you, you don't have to go out looking for it.

Don't think of them as prostitutes, think of them as survivors, and lets face it, you are probably in your 40's or 50's by the time you get to the stage of your life where you are going to go to Asia to find a wife. At 50, you don't want a virgin, and even if you do, you aren'! t going to get one. Who cares if the one you love worked in a bar half way across the world.

They say that familiarity breeds contempt, that is true in some cases, but it also is the breeding ground for love. Some people travel the world looking for love and never find it, others find it next door or just around the corner. What differs between the two is that the one who travels the world and never finds love has unreal expectations of what he is looking for, the other is prepared to compromise and be more understanding of the wants and needs of other people.