Is it really possible to keep a marriage happy ever after?
A good marriage is something you have to work at. Both partners have to be willing to work at it. There will be a lot of tender loving care needed, if you want to keep your relationship fresh and exciting. There is always a giving and receiving in a relationship, if both of you are willing to do that, chances are high that your marriage will survive.
Apply these 8 tips on how to make your marriage work and you won't have any problems:
1. Learn how to communicate effectively. It doesn't matter if you just got married or if it has been a long time since you two started out - this will build a strong relationship. Always listen carefully to your partner and try to be able to comprehend what they are telling you. Give each other your full attention when you are talking. It really helps you to understand them, when you look your partner in the eyes when they are talking. Acknowledge that what has been said is clearly understood.
2. Do not make the mistake to assume that you know how your partner thinks about something. Just because you like something don't volunteer them to do it with you. ASK! Always be so attentive to make sure that they want to do it too.
3. Proclaim - I caught you! When you watch your partner doing something good. Then praise them for doing such a wonderful thing and show them your appreciation. You'll be surprised how far a little appreciation goes. Every time when you show your partner that they are making you happy, they will be doing kind things again and again to receive your recognition.
4. Is there something that you both enjoy doing? Then do it at least one time a week together. Take a class together, go hiking, fishing, read poetry to each other. Find any interests that you can share and do these things often.
5. Be your partner's best friend. Cheer them on when they are working toward something they want. Be there for them when they need it and provide a shoulder to cry on if necessary. Share dreams and goals and work together. Let them know you are proud of them when they accomplish goals.
6. Don't make the mistake to ignore your partner. Don't get so wrapped up in your own life that you completely forget the everyday niceties. Hug and kiss them daily. Don't spend the whole weekend out with friends or watching TV. Make it a point to do something each weekend with your partner and you will grow closer together and have more in common to talk about.
7. It is very important that you "never go to bed angry", this might be hard sometimes, but it is vital. If you let your anger boil long enough it will be much harder to resolve the problem and you will be trying to avoid it with leaving the house or going to bed. Learning to agree to disagree if you have to will help in keeping the peace. But this is only working if you are really honest with yourself and you are sure that its ok to agree to disagree, specifically when it is a smaller problem. This helps you in not wasting time by being angry about small things.
8. You don't lose anything if you admit that you were wrong. If you were wrong, admit it. Your pride will not keep you warm at night and a bad marriage is a high price to pay for it.
There are always individual differences in a relationship, but it is definitely possible to live together in a harmonic way. Keep doing the above mentioned things and make sure you have worked out any problem before going to bed.
Love and cherish another. Build a strong bond by being loving and honest with each other. This is how you make your marriage work.
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